One of my best friends is getting married this Saturday. I'm so happy that she finally found then man that she truly deserves and who she cares about as much as he cares about her! They are so cute together, and I know how much they really love each other already. I'm really excited to be part of their wonderful even in their lives. Its always fun to see the fire of love in a couple's eyes.
(I made their invite btw <3)
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| Look how cute Josh's Grandparents are after 50 years of marriage! |
Some search for love for a long time, others are born to love everyone. Children have love that radiates through their eyes, if they are nurtured and cared for properly. Family members serve one another when they love each other, and friends become family when they are truly loved and love back. Wouldn't it be great if we could define that true love that comes when we love unconditionally? Often people confuse true love with infatuation, and they become unhappy when after those feelings of closeness goes away then their "love" that they thought they had goes out the window and eventually they get a divorce or leave. If we knew truly what love meant, then I think there would be a lot less divorces and a lot more people who know how to truly serve each other and care enough to create lasting happiness.
You know in that disney movie Cinderella, how Cinderella falls in love with the Price the first night she meets him, and she is mopping the floor and singing to herself "so this is love mmmmm"? That brings me to my thought of the day, "what is love, exactly?" More exactly, what is real love? I think that defining love, really has more to do with how someone expresses the love that they have for another person, whether it is their spouse or even their child or friend. True love is expressed and exists when you care about someone so much that your feelings for them are balanced by reason and deep respect. When you love someone, you must have immense respect for them, so much that you care about them and their needs and wishes just as much, if not more than you care about your own well being. Even to a point, at times where you make sure that the needs of your loved one are met before you even worry about your needs. If it is balanced, then your loved one will make sure that your needs are equally met, before they meet their own needs as well. Usually, within a relationship, it is important to have the same beliefs and values as your significant other, or at least have common goals and ideas. When all of these things are in play, it will allow for a relationship to continue to blossom over time and become stronger.
Now this love is not strictly for a spouse, it also applies to friendships. You can love a friend so much that you would do anything for that person, and it will remain successful if the other person is willing to love you equally and willing to give their time to strengthening that friendship with you. When loving someone it is also important to judge rationally and objectively. When you have the same ideas and values, it is easier to do so.
It is interesting how if you are infatuated with someone and don't necessarily have a true love for them, then your emotions will come into play, and you will loose your proper judgment and you tend to forget about the love you have, and you let bad feelings take away from your relationship. In real love, your reasoning controls your emotions. Real love and romantic infatuation are easily confused because they have one thing in common - strong feelings of attachment to the other person.
When we remember the true love we have for a person, it becomes easier to look past their inabilities and imperfections and forgive them for not being perfect. It allows us to see the person whom we are trying to have a relationship with, instead of only looking at the things they did or didn't do right or wrong. It allows us to think clearly and not let our emotions dictate our actions.
So, I ask you, do you know the difference between the true love and infatuation? Do you show your true love that they are really loved, or do are you clouded by your emotions that you let them dictate the outcome of your relationship?
This is HUGE for me today. I hope you got out as much of it as I did :)
I would really love to read your comments on this topic, and if you find anything that could benefit me or anyone else, please share! Happy Tuesday!
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| My adorable sister and her Man Jacob <3 |
I was reading this, and there was one person that kept coming to my thoughts, over, and over, and over, and over, and, well, you get the idea. Reading other's interpretations of what Love is helps, because (and I guess this is speaking directly to katherine, but other readers can probably understand this) even though you're a third party to my own stuff, that third party perspective helps make things just a little less foggy for me. If that makes any sense at all.
ReplyDeleteI can't remember where I came across this, but it was a few days ago. The writer was also trying to define love, and what it means, and how we can measure, and quantify, and strictly define what it is. They wrote that, love, the truest love, and my own addition of, the kind of love that endures all things, and bears all things, etcetc, is not a noun. It's not an adjective. Love, is a verb. Its truest form is, from a first person perspective, when your partners needs comes before your own. And then that complete selflessness is mirrored by your partner.
You hear in songs, and in movies, about the concept of "I love this person so much that I would die for them." I've never understood that, and have never been able to agree with it. Recently, it's felt more appropriate with the idea of, "I love this person so much, that I would live for them." The idea of, I would endure every day being worse than the previous, just to see them smile.
That's what love is to me. I don't know if that's just the romantic infatuation that you spoke of, or something deeper.
But I would live for her. Just to see her smile, to hear her giggle. That makes it worth it to me.