Own your words

I have noticed recently that people sometimes, when communicating, with others will for some reason not say what they mean. They hide hidden messages behind their words or they don't let others know what their real thoughts or intentions are. This is so bad for communicating. When we don't own our words and we speak with hidden meanings, we aren't being true to anyone. In fact, most people don't even think that their could be a hidden meaning behind your words and they take your words at face value. If you say, "oh there is a fast food restaurant, would you like to stop and get something to drink?" When they really mean "I'm thirsty and I think we should stop. Is that okay with you?"

Some people who have a tendency to not say what they mean, often allow themselves to get walked over unintentionally by others, which can be hardening for them. When we own our words and say what we truly mean, or think, then we allow others to know us better and not unintentionally hurt our feelings.

At the other end, when we communicate with others we should take what they say and not what we think they mean when they speak. This will allow for good communication and all parties will be heard and satisfied with the result.

Thinking about how to reach my children this consult seems a little difficult.. I have a tendency to fall into speaking around what I feel, and that isn't a great example of good communication. I need to learn to speak my mind (kindly) so that I can be a good example for my family.

I'm getting better at owning my words and it does get easier. If you have an example of when you choose to not speak your mind and something happened that you didn't enjoy, please comment and tell how you overcame that. I love your comments! Thank you for reading and goodnight.

Happy Wednesday!