Leave of Absence

Is it possible to take a leave of absence from life? I was thinking about this today... You know how when your friend gets a boyfriend and they get busy and ignore you for a while? Or when a couple gets married, they tend to fall off the side of the earth for a good six months.. Or even when a family has a new baby, they don't talk to anyone for a while? I would venture to say that that is a "leave of absence from life."

It interests me to think that someone could become so distracted with their current new thing in their lives that they basically shut off everything else. Some people don't even do social activities after a huge change in their lives. I am not sure whether it is because they are tired of the questions or extra attention, or if they are too preoccupied thinking about what is going on with themselves.

Now I'm not saying that a leave of absence is a bad thing, I mean come on when Lucas was born, I didn't take him anywhere for at least three months. And when I was newly married, we kept to ourselves mostly and built our relationship up and decorated our home. But I'm saying that it interests me how things can just be put on back burners and can be "come back to later."

When things finally decide to go back to normal within the lives of those people, they kind of have to rebuild their outside lives, even a different way than they had been living before the big change had happened. Those things that were put on back burners become a little bit burned and start to not taste as good, and they are eventually changed and at times thrown out all together.

They say everything changes when you have a baby, I understand what they meant now. Your life that you left when that baby came out is totally thrown under the bus and forgotten. Your friends that you had before you were married kind of get thrown aside and you get to join the married couples club. And when you have your second child, you get to join the two child club.. You keep moving and leaving things behind.

Is a leave of absence good? Do you want to start over with your life over and over? Or is it possible to get married and keep on living day to day life? If we do that, will we progress? If we don't will we be happy with our stagnant life? I wonder if that is why people feel a need to move in with their significant other, because they aren't ready for that fast change that comes with simply getting married? They want to test the waters first...

Everyone moves at different paces, but you definitely control how fast or how slow you go in life. Its like the game of Life by Hasbro, I believe. You can take the "fast track" and go to college or go directly into a job.. You can choose to have children right away or you can choose to wait. You can buy a house or other such things. Is the "fast track" easier? Is it the right way? Is it more difficult and some would rather take it just for the challenge?

Interesting. Are you taking a leave of absence from life? Or are you controlling it and keep up on every aspect you worked so hard for?

Something to think about. :) thank you for reading.